Question two
Day 02- The meaning behind your Blog name
I think my blog name is pretty obvious , the name was my original one when i was employed , I am still technically a working mom , just on stress leave at the moment from my employer as I am burnt out
As a single working parent with two amazing children the every day things that most people take for granted when they are working and a parent are challenges
I am different for a working mum , as a solo working parent. I have found out recently i dont fit all the usual demographics , I work I am white and my ex doesnt have a hell of lot to do with his kids
For me the support of a partner to take the kids when you have had the day from hell as customers have been abusing you or threatening to commit suicide or you are dealing with a business going under and you are seeing someones dreams being torn away from them
or the understanding of an employer who knows where you are coming from or recognize that you are under stress due to their responses/workloads they place on you even though you have told them over the past few years in so many ways , these are what you cannot escape from when you get home as you change the role straight away to mum , this can create additional challenges , but my viewpoint is more from the point of the standard working parent , even though I havent updated for a lonng time , I guess this blog thing may give me the kick up the ass to redo my blogging more often
So thats why the name , and onto tomorrow ...
Monday, September 13, 2010
Wednesday, September 8, 2010
30 Days of Me Day one -
Okay so I am doing it as well , whats the saying if you cant beat them join them , so okay thanks to http://simplestformofanelle.blogspot.com/2010/08/thirty-days-of-me.html
So here goes
Day one question one , I always was a late starter ..
Day 01- A recent picture of you and 15 interesting facts about yourself
Number 1
I can finish a book in a day if left to myself , no not one of those thin ones but a big fat chunky one , in fact on of my ex's used to hide my purchases when i bought a few so I wouldn't finish them all at once
2 I am currently suffering from Depression , and am now on my third lot of meds , soon to add more
3 I was raised in Foster care from the age of 6 till the age of 18
4 I run the twitter account @2011Allblacks even though I dont follow rugby that much , but I am learning
5 I can have the twitter name as legally I am not making any money off it and have clearly stated it is a fan account , under current law that is perfectly legal
6I am not a HUGE fan of chocolate , I like it on occasion but not THAT much
7 I need a lot of hugs , touch is important to me , I love being cuddled , wrapped up in someones arms , being made to feel safe
8 I prefer bare feet to shoes
9 I want my children to have what I didnt when I was growing up even if that means going without now for myself
10I dont drink alcohol , I used to , but am finding without it I am just as good
11 Whilst okay with my body I wish I could loose my mummy tummy and get back to my 20's body (who doesnt)
12 I used to be a cheerleader - NO really!!
13 My youngest brother died in Paparua prison by suicide
14 I haven't spoken to my mother in over 20 years
15 Lastly I hate exercise , there I said it , I used to be good at running , funnily enough once i start I am good but hate the idea of it , right now the depression doesnt help either
Well there it is nothing major but hey its now out there ....
So here goes
Day one question one , I always was a late starter ..
Day 01- A recent picture of you and 15 interesting facts about yourself
Number 1
I can finish a book in a day if left to myself , no not one of those thin ones but a big fat chunky one , in fact on of my ex's used to hide my purchases when i bought a few so I wouldn't finish them all at once
2 I am currently suffering from Depression , and am now on my third lot of meds , soon to add more
3 I was raised in Foster care from the age of 6 till the age of 18
4 I run the twitter account @2011Allblacks even though I dont follow rugby that much , but I am learning
5 I can have the twitter name as legally I am not making any money off it and have clearly stated it is a fan account , under current law that is perfectly legal
6I am not a HUGE fan of chocolate , I like it on occasion but not THAT much
7 I need a lot of hugs , touch is important to me , I love being cuddled , wrapped up in someones arms , being made to feel safe
8 I prefer bare feet to shoes
9 I want my children to have what I didnt when I was growing up even if that means going without now for myself
10I dont drink alcohol , I used to , but am finding without it I am just as good
11 Whilst okay with my body I wish I could loose my mummy tummy and get back to my 20's body (who doesnt)
12 I used to be a cheerleader - NO really!!
13 My youngest brother died in Paparua prison by suicide
14 I haven't spoken to my mother in over 20 years
15 Lastly I hate exercise , there I said it , I used to be good at running , funnily enough once i start I am good but hate the idea of it , right now the depression doesnt help either
Well there it is nothing major but hey its now out there ....
Tuesday, May 19, 2009
Home with sick children
For all of you with children and a full time job you will know the dread that you feel when you have to call in sick because the children are not well and cant go to school
There are two parts to calling in sick when its the kids - I'm sure those in my position will definitely will agree with me on this.
Firstly its the whole dealing with the fact that its not you that's sick.
You call the boss , and you're not sure whether you should sound sick as well , by virtue of the fact that you are calling in for sick leave . You know that sounding sick yourself crosses your mind, even though you know that thinking like that is nonsense.
You explain to the boss who is at work at 7 am and you havent normally left home by then that the kids are sick Then your guilt gets the better of you and you provide too much information
As a boss I am sure that he/she really doesn't want to know what is going on in your darling sons gastrointestinal tract, but you want him to understand why you REALLY need this day off, even though YOU are fit and well.
The boss normally mumbles that's fine and hangs up , with his breakfast now firmly at the back of his throat
You're thinking to yourself damn they wont admit it but they are not happy about the fact that you want a day off which brings me to the second much more meaty issue GUILT
When the kids are sick , even though they are the darlings of your life and you would do anything for them , you feel guilty, having to take time off work to spend it looking after them admit it , you do !
Guilty for letting the team down , they look at you when you come back with accusing eyes saying well it wasn't you that was sick , why weren't you here? Especially those that dont have children , those who have children will understand what I mean here , Im sorry those of you who dont will never understand what we mean ,no offense meant :o)
Guilty knowing that the work you left behind is still sitting there not getting done , ( lets get real here , no one does the work you have left behind when you are away . )
Then there's the guilt around making someone else cover for you , knowing that there workload is horrendous and you just added to it with no warning
The worst guilt is if the sick leave is pre-arranged becuase one of the children need surgery you are sure they think you are making it up , Cross section of the right upper freindium , I am sure you don't need two weeks off for that , it sounds like minor surgery ,
Then there is the final guilt when you are home with the kids . The first few days its nice to spend some extra time with them and be just mum , by the end of the week , you are itching to know what has happened at work , and what work is to be done and you WANT to go back .
The worst part of the guilt is that on top of this you feel guilty for all of this running through your mind the second you pick up the phone to call the boss to tell him , I cant be in today one of the kids are sick...
There are two parts to calling in sick when its the kids - I'm sure those in my position will definitely will agree with me on this.
Firstly its the whole dealing with the fact that its not you that's sick.
You call the boss , and you're not sure whether you should sound sick as well , by virtue of the fact that you are calling in for sick leave . You know that sounding sick yourself crosses your mind, even though you know that thinking like that is nonsense.
You explain to the boss who is at work at 7 am and you havent normally left home by then that the kids are sick Then your guilt gets the better of you and you provide too much information
As a boss I am sure that he/she really doesn't want to know what is going on in your darling sons gastrointestinal tract, but you want him to understand why you REALLY need this day off, even though YOU are fit and well.
The boss normally mumbles that's fine and hangs up , with his breakfast now firmly at the back of his throat
You're thinking to yourself damn they wont admit it but they are not happy about the fact that you want a day off which brings me to the second much more meaty issue GUILT
When the kids are sick , even though they are the darlings of your life and you would do anything for them , you feel guilty, having to take time off work to spend it looking after them admit it , you do !
Guilty for letting the team down , they look at you when you come back with accusing eyes saying well it wasn't you that was sick , why weren't you here? Especially those that dont have children , those who have children will understand what I mean here , Im sorry those of you who dont will never understand what we mean ,no offense meant :o)
Guilty knowing that the work you left behind is still sitting there not getting done , ( lets get real here , no one does the work you have left behind when you are away . )
Then there's the guilt around making someone else cover for you , knowing that there workload is horrendous and you just added to it with no warning
The worst guilt is if the sick leave is pre-arranged becuase one of the children need surgery you are sure they think you are making it up , Cross section of the right upper freindium , I am sure you don't need two weeks off for that , it sounds like minor surgery ,
Then there is the final guilt when you are home with the kids . The first few days its nice to spend some extra time with them and be just mum , by the end of the week , you are itching to know what has happened at work , and what work is to be done and you WANT to go back .
The worst part of the guilt is that on top of this you feel guilty for all of this running through your mind the second you pick up the phone to call the boss to tell him , I cant be in today one of the kids are sick...
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